a small insight into my life: wife-mom-football-fitness-politics-religion~upcycle
I’m Atheist, I don’t pray.
Finding myself in any prayer situation is always awkward. Not because I am uncomfortable in my Atheist belief systems or because I’m uncomfortable being around Christians.
Prayer situations are awkward because when people are praying they assume everyone will join in OR they are uncomfortable worrying about the non believers.
A couple weeks ago I had an Aunt &
Uncle over for dinner. We sat down and began to serve the food, family style. My husband put a couple items on his plate and then took a few bites of food. Aunt & Uncle awkwardly made eyes at each other trying to decide what to do.
Hubby, my son and I began eating and conversing as normal.
Aunt & Uncle followed suit.
Looking back, I probably should have addressed the situation. “Feel free to say a prayer, but we will not be joining you.” Or something to that effect.
Earlier this week the same Aunt & Uncle had us over to their house for dinner.
The same awkward silence took place between placing food on our plates
and before the first bites of food were taken.
Aunt & Uncle made eyes at each other and then Uncle said, “let’s eat, they don’t say prayer”
I felt a little awkward because they were not doing their normal routine because they were dining with a family of Atheist.
Had they wanted to say a prayer I would have done the same routine I mastered as a child while dining with my uber religious grandmother.
I would join hands and then sing the alphabet to myself, in my head
My son is the member of a remarkable football organization, but the head coach of the organization loves to give glory to god for everything.
After practices, the entire organization, 6 football teams, join in a huddle. They have a post practice speech or pep talk for the weekend games. Before the huddle is broken, he has the boys place their hands on one another, and he says a prayer.
Not once has this coach asked if the parents and families are ok with this ritual… He just proceeds.
My son always stands on the outside of the huddle and when the prayer starts he shifts backwards or stands there staring off into no mans land.
My dad is terminally ill with cancer. He recently spent 10 days in the hospital recovering from a bad stomach bacterial infection.
I can’t tell you how many people have said to me, “I’m praying for you.”
I never know how respond.
Don’t waste your prayers on me.
Being atheist doesn’t define who I am as a person. It doesn’t make me any less caring than others. It doesn’t make rude or self centered. It doesn’t mean I don’t have a moral compass.
It simply means, I don’t believe in any type of god.
Prayer situations are awkward because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I don’t want to be rude or seem ungrateful. I don’t want to make other people uncomfortable.
As an atheist or Christian (or any other religion for that matter) how do you handle these situations?